Survey: DADT repeal has less impact than expected

From The Marine Corps Times:

With “don’t ask, don’t tell” now off the books, Jenny thinks it’s time for a divorce.

When she was an enlisted soldier, Jenny, who asked that her real name not be used, married a gay man to hide her previous seven-year lesbian relationship with another soldier, with whom she is still raising a child.

“A lot of things have changed,” she said. “So, obviously, there are some things that I need to do in my personal life to take care of that.”

But that doesn’t include formally coming out to her unit — although Jenny, now a captain, said most of the people she works with have already guessed that she’s a lesbian from how she dresses and wears her hair.

She also has no plans to tell anyone about her family. She said that would raise too many questions about her and her former partner.

“At one point, we were in the same unit and people thought we hated each other,” she said. “It’s [one of] the things that we’ve been doing and the hoops that we’ve been jumping through all these years just to have a stable environment for our child. It’s best that people not know, because when they do, you open yourself up to all sorts of scrutiny of your family and what your definition of family is. We have a child to raise.”

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